Recently, I had a lovely lunch with Diane, a business colleague who used to work for me who’s now become a close friend. At one point, we reminisced about what we would do differently if we were starting our careers over again. The first thing I said was, “If I were to write a letter to my younger self, high on my list would be seeking out more mentors along the way.”
Finding a mentor – ideally a network of mentors – is such a smart career move. Your mentors will help you achieve more in good career times and help you survive through the tough times.
Here are my mentoring thoughts from my letter to my younger self.
- Pile on the mentors
Begin with the mentor your company assigns, but don’t stop there. You’ll benefit most from a circle of mentors and advisors. Think of it as your personal board of directors. That way you’ll have a rich source of advice, counsel and inspiration, and you won’t be too demanding of the time of each one individually.
- Ask for advice initially not mentorship
It can be daunting when someone – whether you know him or her well or barely know them – asks you to be their mentor. (I know, it’s happened to me.) But if you approach someone with, “Can you give me 15 minutes of your time to go over a career turning point. I’d love to get your advice,” is an appeal that I don’t think many prospective mentors would turn down. Then, if the short meeting goes well, ask the person if you could call them again from time to time to discuss a work situation. If all goes well, presto, you’ve got a new mentor.
- Don’t neglect your boss
Most of us look far away when we’re looking for a mentor, but a good candidate may be the person you see on a daily basis – your boss. My lunch companion whom I introduced at the beginning of this post used to work for me, and I served as a mentor to her for almost ten years. Who better than your boss to discuss your career aspirations with? Who could be a better brand ambassador for you to others in senior management?
- Consider a “step-ahead” mentor
Most people try to aim high when choosing a mentor, feeling that the higher up in an organization, the more valuable the mentor relationship. But many mentoring experts point out that high status often doesn’t translate into high-value mentoring. Many recommend finding people at the next level up from yours. This person will likely have more time than the top brass, but more important, they will have more practical advice for you in terms of the career issues you are facing.
- Start now
Don’t wait until you’re in serious need of help to seek out mentors. Figure out the kinds of advice and kinds of people you need in your mentor network. Look around and see whom you admire. For example, maybe you are looking for advice on how to build a career path in the company, or how to be a more effective team leader. Once you have the criteria, there are lots of places you can tap for suggestions: your network, professional organizations, friends, and even social networking sites like LinkedIn.
Having a circle of mentors will give you confidence. If you are stuck, you can tap one of your mentors. You’ll have a group of brand ambassadors who will talk up your abilities and potential. Best of all, mentoring won’t be one of the things you need to write about in a letter to your younger self.




